How do women get rid of loneliness??

Loneliness is a very complex multidimensional phenomenon. In other words, there is no remedy against loneliness, simply because there are many different kinds of solitude. The solitude of a widow who just lost her husband, is different from theloneliness of a child who is sick in bed and can not go outside and play with his friends. And as there is no type of loneliness, there is not a solution on how to cure loneliness. Different problems require different solutions.

An importantdimension of loneliness is the frequency with which a person feels lonely. Some people rarely or never feel alone. Very often these people are lonely because of an immediate situation as a cold rainy day or going on a business trip far away from family and friends. This type of loneliness is considered thesolitude of the state because the loneliness seems to be based on the status or position of the person is in. In contrast is a more persistent type of loneliness. This type of loneliness persists regardless of the situation that no conclusions himself / herself in Solitude seems to be much more a feature of this person. Therefore, this type of loneliness is considered loneliness draft.

So what state and trait loneliness has to do with how to get rid of loneliness? Interestingly, the state and the only trait to cope with loneliness different people. Unattached State take a much more proactive approach to their loneliness. They focus on what is the cause of their loneliness and try to solve the problem. They also try to use what is called adaptation "active" strategies, including items such as exercise, listening to music, working on a hobby, etc. These things help to take their minds out of loneliness and make a more positive use of their time.

However trait are singles. Trait loneliness seems to be a more complex problem. Some preliminary results, I began to gather on the Internet, related persons only seem to fall into two categories. First, there are traits lonely people who seem to have given up trying to solve their problem of loneliness. They withdraw from painful situations of loneliness and end up using "sad passive" coping strategies. These strategies are not intended to solve the problem of loneliness, but rather an effort to try to deflect some of the pain of loneliness. These strategies could be crying over eating, sleeping more, drinking, watching TV, etc. Naturally, as these strategies do not try to solve the problem or make positive use of their time, loneliness persists over time . However, the situation with these types of loneliness trait may be more complex than simply not using the right types of adaptation. Research has also shown that loneliness relate to! be associated with other negative factors such as low self-esteem, depression, suicide, etc. Some studies even suggest that loneliness can have a related link to the past of a person. There may be problems of confusion in the past that could have led to a barrage of negative symptoms, one of which is loneliness. To help alleviate this type of loneliness may require a degree of guidance to solve some of these problems.

There also appears to be another category of related persons only. The main features of these people only goal is ironic to find someone special for themselves. One of the founding fathers of the loneliness research suggested that loneliness is "separation distress moot." What does that mean? From the moment we are born, we form an attachment with our caregiver (usually our parents.) The caregiver becomes an attachment figure that gives us a sense of security and comfort. Did you notice a child when he / she can not find his / her mother? They cry, appear to be in severe distress and seek their caregiver everywhere. Is not it quite similar to solitary people? Some lonely people seeking their attachment appears everywhere, and are distressed when they can not find that special person to love. But why?

There are several possible reasons. The first is that the person had someone special and they left (death, divorce, moved to another area, etc.) Another reason is that the person does not have the social skills to make and build friendships . These people may be shy or anxious. Another reason may be the culture in which we live. Especially in Western culture, the company prides itself on individuality and personal freedom. However, successful relationships require a certain degree of compromise. Understanding may require violation of personal freedom that can be desired. The end result may be that you do not find someone special, just because someone special is the fruit of our imagination a real actual person. One last final reason for people who are lonely and respect still looking for that special someone, they can not find, perhaps because they may not be willing to drop their defenses. Usually when people are hurt in the past b! people are they like, they are more reluctant to be open to love, the next time it comes around ("Once Bitten, Twice Shy"). However, to be in a relationship requires dropping some of their defenses and be open to the possibility of being hurt again. Only then real meaningful relationships can be formed. But being open to love takes time, patience and perhaps "take things slowly." If you can not be hurt, then you can not be loved.

Loneliness is described by many as a very painful thing. Help understand the causes of your loneliness will help you get rid of it. I hope the above descriptions of certain types of loneliness will help you on your way to get rid of it